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These 6 Tips Will Teach You How to Comfortably NOT Breastfeed
There are many reasons people choose not to breastfeed or cannot physically breastfeed. If you are in the category of not breastfeeding, remember, that is okay! Do not allow others to put you on a guilt trip. It is your body and your baby, so choosing what works for you is your decision!
There are many reasons people choose not to breastfeed or cannot physically breastfeed. If you are in the category of not breastfeeding, remember, that is okay! Do not allow others to put you on a guilt trip. It is your body and your baby, so choosing what works for you is your decision!
A bit about milk production:
About halfway through pregnancy, your body begins making colostrum. After delivery of the baby and placenta, your body will begin to make more mature milk that will start to “come in” after a few days. If the milk is not being used by feeding or pumping, milk production will gradually slow down and eventually stop. Around 7-10 days postpartum, hormones should return to the non-pregnant level. Here are some tips to help ease the discomfort or engorgement you may feel while your milk is drying up.
Protect and cover by wearing a supportive bra without underwire. Binding the breasts is not necessary and can lead to mastitis and plugged ducts.
Apply cool compresses or ice packs to the breasts. Some prefer frozen peas as they shape the breast nicely.
Take anti-inflammatory medicine like ibuprofen.
If the discomfort is unbearable, it is ok to express a small amount of milk; but only enough to ease the discomfort. Keep in mind, though, expression at regular intervals can signal the body to produce more milk and slow down the drying-up process.
Shield when showering! Stand with your breasts away from the warm water flow, as the water can stimulate milk flow, and thus, milk production.
Soothe with raw cabbage leaves inside your bra around the breasts. You can refrigerate or freeze the leaves for a nice cool sensation. There has not been a lot of research done to support cabbage-reducing milk production, but it is a safe method, eases discomfort, and is worth a try.
If you notice signs of mastitis, such as painful redness in a pie slice shape on the breast, warmth to the touch, fever, or fatigue resembling flu symptoms, please contact your doctor immediately. You may need medication to treat the infection, and delaying treatment can worsen your condition.
Although many herbal supplements are suggested online, consult an herbalist and your doctor before trying any, as they can be toxic if misused, have unknown side effects, or might interact negatively with medications, including over-the-counter ones.
Ultimately, you know what's best for your situation. Whether you decide to pump or breastfeed, we support your choice and are here to help if needed.
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Postpartum Expectations and Must-have Items
To help you prepare for an easier postpartum time and a speedy recovery after birth, here are a dozen comfort suggestions and must-have items to have on hand following either a surgical or vaginal delivery.
In addition to filling your freezer with nutritious meals, lining up pet sitters, and daily help from family and friends, you'll want to stock up on postpartum supplies to have on hand upon your discharge from your birthing facility. Below are a dozen comfort suggestions to help you prepare for an easier postpartum time and a speedy recovery for both surgical and vaginal deliveries.
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After care items for a vaginal birth:
Epifoam
If you receive stitches on your perineum, you'll likely receive a numbing spray called Epifoam while in the hospital. If you need more after your return home, ask your doctor if Dermaplast (over the counter) is an acceptable alternative.Sitz baths
This plastic tub is placed directly on the toilet rim (seat up) and you sit on it as it circulates warm water on your bottom via a tube connected to a bag you fill from the sink. This helps clean your bottom, may encourage urination, and will help with healing. Many women find it very comforting. Follow this with an ice pack! (Insert sigh of relief!) Your hospital may offer you a sitz bath or you can find this at your local pharmacy.Peri-bottle
Following the birth of your baby, you will be given a small plastic bottle filled with warm water. Use it to squirt on your bottom as much as necessary to help encourage urination and dilute the sting caused from urine. Once your bladder is empty, squirt your bottom again gently with as much water as necessary to help clean your bottom. Then PAT your bottom dry with hospital wash cloths or toilet paper. Take your bottle home with you or buy a few to keep in each of your bathrooms.
For both type of deliveries:
Doughnut-shaped pillow or wedge (V-shaped) cushion
Called coccydynia or coccygodynia, tailbone pain usually goes away on its own within a few weeks or months after childbirth. To lessen pain while sitting, use a doughnut-shaped pillow or wedge (V-shaped) cushion. Try a dollar store pool tube!Witch hazel or Tuck's pads
Found at your local pharmacy, witch hazel is an over the counter astringent, which can be used to help shrink hemorrhoids. Most commercial bottles of witch hazel contain alcohol so it may sting with direct application. TJ Dickinson's is a brand that sells pure witch hazel. It may take you some time to locate TJ's unless you shop at Whole Foods. (You may want to try the wipes, Tuck's pads, or Preparation H.) If using the liquid, you can make a “padcicle” by soaking a pad with witch hazel and placing it in a clean Ziploc bag then freezing it. Once frozen, remove it and wear it as normal. Many women find this very comforting for their swollen, sore bottoms – especially after a vaginal delivery.Senokot
A gentle vegetable-based laxative called Senokot may be offered to you at the hospital. You can also find it over the counter at your local pharmacy. It is generally well-tolerated (doesn’t cause intestinal cramping) and takes effect within about 12 hours, so it’s usually taken in the evening.Colace
To help with those first few postpartum bowel movements, you may want to try Colace, a stool softener, during the first several days. Once you are eating/drinking somewhat “normally” and soreness has subsided, you may wish to stop taking these medications. Both can be taken on an as-needed basis in the future.Maxi Pads (overnight/heavy flow with wings)
Bleeding for the first 6-8 weeks following delivery is normal. It is called Lochia (LOW-kee-uh). It will begin as very heavy, bright red bleeding that will gradually diminish to a dark red, brown and then to a more yellowish color. During this time period, nothing at all should be introduced to the vagina. Only wear pads, cloth/reusable or disposable, no douching, and no sexual intercourse until the lochia flow has stopped and you have been cleared by your provider."Granny" or Mesh Panties
At the hospital, you will use mesh panties to hold your pad and ice pack. Bring the mesh underwear home with you or have a pair or two at home. If you've had a c-section, try the C-Panty. Here’s a listing of postpartum panties to find the right type for you.Ibuprofen Pain Reliever (Motrin/Advil)
6-800mg of ibuprofen will be brought to you every 6 hours in the hospital, along with some crackers. This medicine will help with cramping, and will also help with inflammation “down below.” Most women find the ibuprofen is enough to manage their pain, but if you are still experiencing a lot of pain, ask your nurse for something else (usually taken in conjunction with the ibuprofen). You will be sent home with a prescription for the 800mg tabs of ibuprofen.Nursing Pads
When you nurse your baby, you will experience what is called a “let down”, which is simply the release of milk from your breasts at the same time. When you hear your baby cry, you may also leak milk and appreciate wearing nursing pads. Both reusable/washable and disposable pads are available for purchase. If you don't plan to breastfeed, you'll still need pads for a bit of time as well as a head of cabbage kept in your fridge.Nipple Cream
In the first few weeks breastfeeding, your nipples may get a bit sore. Nipple cream by Earth Mama Angel Baby or Motherlove will help soothe and heal the affected areas. Alternatively, you could try organic coconut oil.
It Takes A Village
You will need to build your village of support people. It’s important for BOTH parents to seek out support from other parents – not just friends, but other people who have kids and “get it.” Both men and women experience postpartum depression. Read this to be able to recognize the signs of postpartum anxiety and depression.
Find a support group NOW so you know who/where to turn to for help. You can always call your doula or care provider if you need suggestions. We're here for you.
Finally, you may wish to arrange a lesson with an infant care specialist for hands-on guidance on newborn care. Doing so will help ease your transition to parenthood. Best wishes!
Pumping and Breastfeeding Tips For Going Back To Work
PART 2 of 2: After maternity leave is over, your first day back to work might be filled with lots of emotions. To ease back into the workplace, I suggest you make your first day back in the middle of the week to make transition a little less chaotic. For more tips to help encourage breastfeeding success after returning to work, please read on.
Part 2 (read part 1: Tips To Help Make Breastfeeding Easier)
Part 2 (read part 1: Tips To Help Make Breastfeeding Easier)
After maternity leave is over, your first day back to work might be filled with lots of emotions. To ease back into the workplace, I suggest you make your first day back in the middle of the week to make the transition a little less chaotic.
I've listed below the things that have helped me continue breastfeeding and pumping after I returned to work, and while traveling. You'll need to guard your pump time! Block it out on your calendar and set appointment reminders on your phone. For all day meetings and events, remind people in advance that you will need to take breaks for pumping.
Know that your baby may have a transition period where they are refusing to drink from a bottle at daycare. This usually passes within two weeks. You might notice they start to cluster feed at night to make up for it. Expect your baby to want to be attached to you when you get home. It’s their way of saying they missed you.
To encourage breastfeeding success:
Buy a door stopper and place it behind the door when you pump. For some reason people don’t stop and knock when a door is locked even when there is a sign that says that the room is in use. It will also allow you to use spaces that don’t have a lock with confidence that no one will walk in on you.
Have lots of pictures and videos of your baby to look at while pumping. Ones of them crying are great to encourage a letdown.
Pump for every missed for 30 minutes per session, or for 2-5 minutes after the last drops of milk.
Remember that what you pump is NOT an indication of what baby gets when they are at the breast. Breasts are made for babies, NOT for cold plastic pumps.
You don’t have to wash out your parts after every use. Store these in a gallon size Ziploc bag and put them in the refrigerator.
Change out your membranes every couple of months or when you notice a decrease in supply.
Keep a spare outfit for yourself in your office or car for the days you are leaky.
Items to store in your pump bag:
extra membranes
wash cloth to dry yourself off
milk storage containers
freezer packs
gallon size ziploc bags
nipple cream/coconut oil
pump, pump power cord
flanges and tubing
breast pads
clean bottles
phone charger so you can look at pictures of your baby
snacks and water
For the traveling, breastfeeding parent:
Print the TSA guidelines for transporting breastmilk and keep them in your carry-on bag to show anyone who may need a reminder.
Breastmilk does not need to follow the normal 3.4 oz. guideline.
Your breastmilk does not need to go through the X-ray machine if you don’t want it to. Make sure to allow extra time for the required screenings, as well as a personal pat down by security.
Ice packs, freezer packs, frozen gel packs and other accessories required to cool formula, breast milk are allowed in your carry-on.
Some airports have pumping and breastfeeding pods called Mamava. Use their app to locate a pod closest to you. Mamava pods are pretty nice and are a great place if you don’t want to feed or pump in public.
“If pumping makes you unhappy, switching to other milk supplies, such as donor milk or formula, might be the healthiest choice for you, emotionally.”
If you don’t have enough time to pump because of the type of job you have, remember you don't have to feed all breastmilk, donor milk or formula. Consider using donor milk or formula for daytime bottle feedings and breastfeed your baby in the morning and night. Your body will adjust to your new schedule. If you decide to change your breastfeeding or pumping schedule, do so slowly. Weaning needs to be a gentle process for your body and your baby to adjust.
Keep in mind that if you find breastfeeding and pumping after your return to work is decreasing your quality of life, weigh the pros and cons. If pumping makes you unhappy, switching to other milk supplies, such as donor milk or formula, might be the healthiest choice for you, emotionally. Yes, breastmilk from you offers the most nutrition for your baby, but having a happy, well-balanced parent is important too.
Find your village at work that's made of people who understand you! It’s also great to have a “phone a friend” when you realize you left behind an essential piece of your pump at home. Meet new friends and gain support at your local La Leche League. Look at the directory to find a meeting close to you.
Being a working parent is all about finding the right rhythm for you. You will live your life on a very tight schedule, but just remember, it’s only a season of your life. The days are long, but the years are short, my friend.
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Ever heard people say "never wake a sleeping baby"? I'm here to tell you that is a myth. Learn how to promote the best feeding and sleeping patterns by following these general feeding tips for newborns.
Never wake a sleeping baby!!
You've heard people say this, right? I'm here to tell you it is a myth. Learn how to promote the best feeding and sleeping patterns by following these general feeding tips for newborns.
